Be You, Even If Society Says Otherwise

Guess what day it is! It's Motivational Monday. I'm so happy to be doing this. I will try doing this each week. Let me know what your thoughts are on this idea. 
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I don't get it when someone asks, "What do you find for in a girl/guy?" I mean, do you set standards, find who perfectly meets them, and then push yourself to love them? Because from what I can see, our standards have become someone who is absolute, someone who's perfect; so no one can ever meet another person's standards. We are not born to be perfect, but we are born to be our best selves regardless of what other people want us to be. You are not to impress, but to express.

To feel the need to be the image that society believes to be beautiful is natural for us, because we want to be accepted, and we want to find someone who we will belong to someday. We are deceived that being pretty and skinny or being handsome and having a body built is the only way to be accepted. 

We have this mentality that we have to meet society's standards of beauty, yet we are called narcissistic. You are beautiful! And I mean you behind all those concealment. I mean you who boldly dream and think of sublime thoughts, who brighten up another person's day because of your smile, who have inspired others because of your creativity, who are admired by others because of your talents, who become so enthusiastic doing something which you're passionate about, and who face every struggle that comes in your way with great courage and boldness. You are so much more than make-up, photoshop, filters, and age defying products. Never use make-up or whatnot to define you, use it to highlight you.

The truth is, we will never be who society wants us to be, because we have no control of their satisfaction. However, you have control over pleasing yourself. You have the full capacity to satisfy yourself and make yourself happy.
You live not to be the person others want you to be. You are to live your life through your own self. 
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.” 
― Bernard M. Baruch

In the comments section, tell me three things you like most about yourself.
Be better than who you were yesterday.

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  1. This post is simply amazing. :') You are inspiring Zoe! I loved every bit of it. ^_^
    Keep posting more. :)


  2. I love these types of blog posts, I hope you're able to continue doing more posts like this! :)


  3. I love this one, Zoe!! Coz every woman needs reminding. <3 The three things I love about myself:
    1. my positive outlook
    2. compassion towards others
    3. being imaginative

    1. Aw. I can totally agree with you! I see that on your blog ;)

  4. Nice writing! And you are right, forget about what society says because the society is getting weird now anyway. lol!!
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  6. Really inspiring post, great reading this in the morning, gave me motivation for the day! :)


    1. I'm so glad to here that! Thank you so much Christel :)

  7. Great post, love these sort of posts!


  8. I'am just going to repeat the same thing as everyone else that commented, but it's the truth this post is really amazing and inspiring :D

  9. "What do you find for in a girl/guy?" you mean look for? I don't really 'look' for anything, I guess because I assume that I'll know what it is if I come across it. As for the other thing, I go through phases of loving myself and hating myself. Right now it's the later because I feel frustrated that I can't take care of myself the way I want to. But never mind, it'll pass. I don't really give a f*ck about what society or the media says about beauty or perfection, pshh, of all things. Pleeease. You can't fit millions of people into one box, they've been BSing since Day 1. Does anyone even still listen to them? I thought the lesson about Manipulation was learned by now.

    "The truth is, we will never be who society wants us to be, because we have no control of their satisfaction. However, you have control over pleasing yourself. You have the full capacity to satisfy yourself and make yourself happy."

    I love this quote Zoe!!! That's amazin! I'm saving that.

    1. My imagination
    2. My compassion (this is also number on on my what I hate about myself list - remember what I said about vulnerability?)
    3. My.... humour...? Meh, you guys wouldn't know any different. XD

    Excellent post. Thanks for sharing Zoe!

    1. I couldn't agree with you more Star! I totally admire you for your compassion, imagination, and humor! I can see these in your blogs ;) Thank you so much for your comment Star! :)

  10. We should all take a stand and just be ourselves and love who we are. It's so draining trying to fit into this mould all the time. We would all be happier if we could just live the life we want and be the person who we want. My three things are: 1) I'm always there for others, 2) Sense of humour, 3) My friendliness to both friends & strangers :)


    1. I totally agree! It is so draining. Thank you for your lovely comment Linda! :) You are really friendly. xoxo

  11. Awesome post!
    Something from "Autumn Leaves" André Gide to add to a topic:
    “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”


    1. I seriously LOVE this quote! Thanks for sharing the quote Lili :)

  12. yup I agree :) i think people nowadays are more open to concepts of individuality and freedom of self expression anyway..its a step closer :)


  13. You have such a unique and creative way of writing. I love it so much. You're truly inspirational.

    1. That's so sweet! Thank you so much :)


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